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Positive Discipline Starts With The Parents- Part 2

In our last blog post, we gave our first three steps to practicing positive discipline. In this post, we explore four more ways to discipline children effectively.

1. Give Attention To Good Behavior, Not Bad Behavior

Children often act out to get attention. Sometimes, it pays to ignore your child when he/she acts out. Ignore the behaviors you don’t want to see more of and give attention to the behaviors you want them to display more often. Katharine C. Kersey, the author of “The 101s: A Guide to Positive Discipline,” calls this the “Rain on the grass, not on the weeds” principle. In the midst of tantrums or whining, play deaf or walk away and your child will soon learn that those behaviors don’t catch your attention. This is a way to practice positive discipline and teach your children to communicate better.

2. Redirect

Instead of trying to stop bad behavior, try redirecting your child’s attention to good behavior. Kids who constantly hear “no” or “don’t” tend to eventually tune those directives out. So instead of telling your child what not to do, Kersey recommends instead, offering a positive behavior to replace the misbehavior. For instance, a child acting up in a grocery store could be redirected to helping pick out grocery items. A child running around a swimming pool might be challenged to walk “as if on marshmallows.” Be creative with your children.

3. Exploit the “energy drain”

Any parent who has dealt with a tantrum or a whining child knows that parenting can be exhausting. Fay calls this the “energy drain” and says you can use it to your advantage. For instance, you might defuse a sibling confrontation by saying, “wow, you need to take that fight with your brother somewhere else, because listening to that could cause me a big energy drain and I don’t think I’ll have the energy to take you to get dessert after dinner.” What will your child care more about, getting ice cream after dinner or fighting with their sibling?

4. Stay Away From Bribing

Sometimes bribing seems like the easiest option in a moment of desperation, but is not the best long-term solution for your children. Fay warns that bribing sends the wrong message. What kids hear when we offer a reward for good behavior is “you don’t want to be very good and you have to be paid off,” says Fay.

The most important rearward to give your child is quality time. That should be freely given. Children need us and they need our undivided attention at times. Fay recommends spending AT LEAST 15 minutes of one-on-one time with your children a day. It’s very important for children to know they are loved and to hear it often. Love is the best medicine.

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Positive Discipline Starts with The Parents- Part 1

Some parents are lucky enough to have angel children who never misbehave but the majority of us have to sometimes put up with thrown toys, screams and slammed doors in our faces. The way we handle these situations, behave ourselves and discipline our children really matters. Here are some tips that we’ve gathered from a few experts.

Understand The Meaning Behind The Behavior

As parents, it’s our job to be selfless and to be cognitive of what’s going on with our children. Taking the time to really know our children gives us the opportunity to understand why they are acting certain ways. Naomi Aldort, the author of “Raising our Children, Raising Ourselves,” says that children are born wanting to behave well. If they seem to miss the mark, there’s a valid reason for it. “The most important [thing] is to realize that whatever a child does, we may label as bad, [but really] the child is doing the best he can. It’s our job as parents to find out why [he is] doing it,” says Aldort. “Once we know the valid root of the behavior, we can easily remove the cause or heal the emotions, and the child won’t be driven to behave in that way anymore.”

Ask yourself if your child is acting out for a certain reason. Have they been getting enough attention? Are they acting out to be noticed? Is there a certain correction you can make to your own behavior that might positively affect your child? “A lot of what we expect of children is unreasonable,” says Aldort.

Be Willing To Adjust Your Own Behavior

Our children pick up on our behaviors. It’s often hard to keep calm in the heat pf the moment but how we react to situations is often how our children will grow up to react to situations. Dr. Katharine Kersey, author of “The 101s: A Guide To Positive Discipline,” says that parents need to model the types of behavior they want their kids to emulate. Leading by example is very powerful. ” We should not do anything in front of [our children] that we don’t want them to do,” she says.

Be Consistent

Consistency is everything in parenting. Being consistency is very healthy for our children. Aldort says that parents often overlook certain behaviors and hope it will pass. That is a lazy perspective. It will not pass. If your child bites another child, for instance, hold their hand and them their behavior was unacceptable. If they continue, it’s time to remove them from the situation and handle it.

Sometimes a child might try to test the limits by arguing with the rules. When this happens, Fay suggests neutralizing negotiations by repeating one simple mantra as often as necessary: “I love you too much to argue.”

Let’s all strive to understand our children, exemplify positive behavior and be consistent in with our parenting styles and discipline patterns. Stay tuned for part 2 with even more advice on utilizing positive discipline in the home.

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New Location In Tomball, Texas

Tomball In A Nutshell

Are you a native of Tomball? Tomball is a city in Harris County in the state of Texas and is part of the Houston metropolitan area. With an estimated population of 10,753, Tomball is a suburb of Houston and it’s a wonderful small town to raise a family. Many families reside in the Tomball area. If you are a parent of young children, you may have to deal with head lice in the near future. That’s where we come in. We are experts of head lice and we now offer safe and effective lice treatment at our new clinic in Tomball, Texas to make it even more convenient for our wonderful Tomball neighbors. Our original location is in College Station and we continue to operate both locations.

Our AirAllé® Lice Treatment

We hope there is not a head lice outbreak at your child’s school anytime soon but if there is, there’s a big chance your son or daughter will come home with lice so it’s important to be prepared. We encourage parents to know a little bit about head lice, such as how it spreads and how to treat it. We offer treatments using our revolutionary and guaranteed lice treatment with our Airalle device. It was invented at the University of Utah and uses controlled, heated air in a pattern to dehydrate head lice and eggs, even when you can’t see them. It will work no matter how resistant lice become to chemicals and pesticides because we don’t use any! That means it’s not only effective but also safe! Don’t use drugstore lice shampoos because they simply don’t work. Parents love our treatment because it’s one and done with no follow-up appointments necessary. It’s safe, fast and effective. Give us a call today for a head check and possible treatment!

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Super Lice: Not So Super

Super Lice

No matter what, head lice are a nuisance and they always have been. We’re lucky we live in a day with so much technology and so many resources. We don’t have to carve lice combs out of stones like people in ancient times but now parents have to deal with an even stronger and trickier strain of head lice. They act and look the same but are resistant to treatments that used to easily kill them.

Super lice are now in 48 states in the U.S, according to head lice research from the last few years. This has brought the efficacy rate of over-the-counter treatments from 96 percent to 28 percent. Parents are realizing more and more just how valuable our AirAllé treatment is because it’s a one and done, safe and effective treatment, which isn’t easy to come by these days. It’s worth the price and makes lice treatment easier than ever for you. If your family is affected by lice in the future, we know we can be the best resource and treatment in town for you.

Super Lice

Super lice got their name from the media in 2015 when public research showed that strains of head lice had developed a resistance to pesticides and chemicals that are in drugstore head lice treatments. Lice have mutated and evolved over the years to become stronger and resistant. Scientists found that lice have become resistant to many medical lice treatments as well. Doctors often recommend Lice Clinics of America because of our success rate. The bad news is any lice treatment you buy at the store or home remedy you find in your kitchen probably will not work. The good news is, our treatment will work no matter what. It works for regular lice, super lice and whatever the future hold for lice. It uses warm, controlled air to dehydrate lice and their eggs.